I hope you will hear His heart for you as you read this:
My daughter,
I see you...
I see you at 5:30am when you are struggling to get out of bed and get your family ready for the day.
I see you packing lunches and prepping breakfast and dinner and thinking about your sweet children upstairs still asleep, hoping that you are doing the right thing by working.
I see you and the care you take packing backpacks and leaving notes in lunches because you are hoping that note will feel like a gigantic hug from a Mama who misses her kiddos during the day.
I see you at work, looking at pictures on your desk, on your phone and laughing to yourself at the latest antics of your little boy.
I see you picking up your kids, that first hour being tense- you wishing everything could just go perfectly, and them transitioning and feeling out of sorts and you wanting to get homework done, dinner made and when you snap at the boys, I see you feeling like a failure.
I see you stopping and hugging them, putting down the burnt dinner and pulling out the cereal and playing Leggo's in your work clothes and I want to say- "Atta girl! You know what's most important!"
I see you staring at them while they sleep, loving them so fiercely and deeply.
I see you at church on Sunday, staring at the bulletin and seeing that you can't make the Mama bible studies because they are during the day and how you don't want to go to an evening study anyways because every night belongs to those babies.
I see you staring at piles of laundry and wanting to cry.
I see you feeling alone a lot and wanting more connections.
I see you wanting to enjoy each moment with your kids but also needing friends and some time for yourself.
I see your sacrifice.
I see you and I want you to know that I am proud of you.
As proud of you as you are when your 6 year old hits a home run, or when your 3 year old starts to dress himself.
I am proud of your hard work, the details you put into your homemaking, and the ways in which you try to live for me in the workplace.
I am proud of you for watching your finances and budgeting and looking for ways to save money so that one day you can reduce your hours.
I am proud of you for working late some nights so that you can attend a field trip or earn extra money for school shopping.
I am proud of you not for what you DO though, but for YOUR HEART behind your actions.
I want you to know, to REALLY KNOW, that I have created these children with YOU in mind. YOU are EXACTLY what they need!
Never put yourself down for what you can/cannot do for these babies, but remember that I will fill in the gaps with my Holy Spirit and I will find people to help you when you cannot be there.
Your job is to HELP THEM SEE THE RELATIONSHIP THAT YOU AND I HAVE AS BEING MOST IMPORTANT.
Your job is to let them WATCH YOU depend on me, so that they can see that:
THEIR MAMA LOVES JESUS
THEIR MAMA NEEDS JESUS and that-
JESUS IS ALWAYS FAITHFUL TO THEIR MAMA.
And when they look back, they will remember how much YOU LOVED ME and LOVED THEM in every crazy, quiet, frustrating, and joyful moment.
They will remember the prayers before leaving the house, the bible stories in the car, the lessons on forgiveness after a frustrating conversation, the Jesus Love Me's being sung over their sleepy bodies as they drift off at night...
They will see these things and they will want to know me more and that is all that matters dear Working Mama-Daughter of the King-Precious Child of Mine.
(side-note: God's love letter to Stay at Home Moms is much the same as above and remember- ALL MOMS ARE WORKING MOMS- this blog is for ALL MOMS, but it does specifically speak to the Christian Mom who works outside the home and is maybe struggling with this identity...)
Love! Yes! Amen!
ReplyDeleteI had the joy and hard work of being a homeschool mom to my three, and it was the most satisfying work of my life. To me, it ended too soon when God moved our family to make changes. Letting go to become a working mom was emotionally painful. Buy I knew God's voice and His peace remained with me as I adjusted. I still lament some things to Him, but He assures me I'm where I need to be in ways I cannot always articulate. I enjoy my job, but my phone is always on, and when I'm off, I'm 100% MOM.
Delete"But I knew God's voice and His peace remained with me as I adjusted"
DeleteThat can apply to Single Fathers as well, and that I have been much of my child raising years! God loves us equally the same! He has a plan for each and every one of us, and as parents we are special ! God has entrusted us with an special assignment, the responsibility of bringing our children up in the fear of the Lord, so that when they are mature they will come to realize the importance of serving God! And realize the consequences of not doing so! The very important mission of being soul winners! Go you into all the world and preach the Gospel to everyone! One soul is worth more than the whole world! God bless you all and especially the parents that have the responsibility of teaching, taking care of, and loving them as God loves us! Unconditionally ! Paul
DeleteThis is beautiful, and exactly what I needed. Thank you for reminding me how God sees me and my work as a wife, mom, employee, etc.
ReplyDeleteI always click these articles hoping it will be different than the last and unfortunately this one is just like all the rest. Maybe this is what God is speaking to this writer but it's most certainly not what is being spoken to my heart. I'm proud of the opportunities and example I'm setting by working. I'm not pining away thinking about ways I can reduce my hours or cut back. I don't stare in the dark "hoping" I'm doing the right thing-- I know I'm doing the right thing. The need for alone time, and piles of laundry are not relegated to working mothers but all mothers. I'm running my race with endurance and confidence that I'm on the path The Lord has set before me. This author says she's not going to speak for all working mamas and then tries to do just that. She most definitely doesn't speak for me. And her whispers from the Holy One don't in any way resemble the sweet words whispered to my heart by the Holy Spirit. Just wanted to put that out there in case there are any other moms who are experiencing the same reaction to this article...like all the other ones posted on behalf of working moms.
ReplyDeleteI think it is unfortunate that that is what you took from reading this sweet letter. It is absolutely alright to disagree but sometimes best to leave nitpicky and unhelpful words inside. How about we build each other up instead?!
DeleteAshley, I'm with you and I thought I would voice my support. That's not to say there weren't parts of this that were on point but my aims (and frustrations) grow out of a desire to make work life and family life work together, not to give up one for the other. I have goals for both and seek to fulfill both. I also just really hope I am setting an example for both my daughter and my son by working hard. I hope they see that it is entirely possible to reach for ALL of your dreams, seek to change the world AND have the family you dream of (which at times is one and the same for some). It really is all about finding what God has for you. For me, it is both a career and family. That's not a slam on stay at home moms. It takes a lot of disciple (to do it right anyway). I tried it once. I was ineffective, unmotivated and ultimately complacent - because I wasn't where I was supposed to be. God bless all - the moms at home, the moms out in the work force, and all the babies. :)
DeleteAshley, I feel bad that what you got from this article was not what you wanted it to be. All moms, whether stay at home moms or moms working outside the home, are different, that is why God made no two people alike. The author's views are just that..hers. I sense some anger in your writing, maybe from something that has happened to you, or maybe resentment towards someone, I pray this is not the case if so then I hope you will ask God to help you to be able to release it. The Holy Spirit speaks to each of us in different ways, and if He speaks different "sweet words" to you, then grasp them and hold on to them. But God says we are not to judge. I think in your response that is what your doing, her thoughts are her thoughts, your thoughts are yours. I pray God give you peace.
DeleteAs a single mom, working is not an option but a means of survival. If I lost my job, my son would not eat or have a roof over his head.
DeleteAshley... For an article that should be uplifting on days that aren't so well, you sure are a downer. Have you ever laid in the desert for months away from your child? I'm sure if you did you would ponder in the dark if you did the right thing even though you know you are. I am confident and I am as strong as they come and I make alot of money alone but not everyday is perfect. I do look for ways to save, I do look for ways to be home more, I do wonder if I did my best today. Is that bad? Try clicking on artickes and not being pessimistic. You don't sound like someone god talks to and its ok to admit it it's not always a perfect day.
DeleteTo all those saying that Ashley is saddening you or that she is a downer... Please check the Christianty of the post. Why are all opinions not being respected here? I've been blessed to be a stay at home and a working mother at different points. I prefer staying home and having that time with my child, but in the reality of today's world it's not a current option for me. I think that all moms do the best they can and God knows that. He speaks to us all differently to meet the needs of our own individual situations. We aren't robots and God didn't make us from cookie cutters. He made us all different so we could all shine through Him. Please remember that we as moms need support more than criticism and that we all have the same goal in mind... Raising good Christian children to follow our Father. God bless!!!
DeleteAshley, I pray that you see that life is not always about "You". I pray that you read this writing and think through your list of friends and wonder if it is one of them. Then I pray that you find a way to help ease their burden, lift their spirit and lighten their load. I pray that this doesn't become you one day, or unexpectedly. But, this IS my daughter. It comes at a VERY timely place in her young life, with an amazing little boy who she struggles every day to do what's right by. I pray for her often, and this article is timely for her, and I'm sure many others. I pray that your vision turns outwards. God Bless.
DeleteAshley, Good note. I like the confidence of your reply. It spoke to me when you commented "I'm running my race with endurance and confidence that I'm on the path The Lord has set before me".
DeleteAnyone can nitpick of they. Look hard enough. This site is looking at a difficult subject from a Christian view to help someone who reads it. This mother wrote what she felt led to write. She should be respected for her decision just like you should. Act like Christians. Respect t yourself and others because kit is the right thing
DeleteNot every word of every article can apply to everyone, but a lot of this applies to most working mamas. She is not saying working mamas aren't proud of what they do, or the example they set; all she is saying it IS hard to leave your babies in someone else's arms. Most moms miss their kids fiercely while at work. No matter how proud you are of your career and the example your setting you cant help but miss those smiles, hugs and giggles. Say I am completely wrong.....maybe this mama is having a tough emotional time right now and needed to vent, lets let her; lets support her. Lets replies letting her know its going to be okay and she is doing great.
DeleteI think Ashley made a very good point, although I certainly saw nothing wrong with the article and felt exactly like the author so eloquently spoke about at times. I was always a working mother by necessity. But I think we as women can be far too hard on each other, and I certainly do not think that is God's will for any of us. I do think Ashley raised a very valid point, and my only suggestion is thatb perhaps that is a message that God has given her to deliver. Please write that article you are looking for, Ashley. I would really love to read it!
DeleteAnything for us less than perfect moms out there struggling? Some one take up the cause and write something as beautiful and poignant for the overwhelmed mom, the mom with depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar disorder... the moms battling chemical dependence or in struggles just to get by. I love this and it is wonderful. I know there are those moms that this would just make them feel even worse about themselves because they just aren't doing all these things. Heck I don't make my childs lunch every morning. My laundry isn't done all the time. I am not saying anything bad a bout this article, in fact I really like it. I understand Ashley's side as well. I have been a stay at home mom and then had to go to work when my husband lost his job. I don't in any way feel guilty about it.
DeleteI am an not blessed with the ability to pen something this beautiful. Can you make one for the mom struggling to keep her head above water through divorce, mental illness, unemployment, struggling with doubt, self worth.... in the depths of darkness we need light. We need hope.
I agree Ashely. I am happy to work even when it is a struggle and get frustrated with the idea that many Christan mom's have that mind set that moms should ideally work inside the home only. That may be true for some families but my full time position and future thoughts of sending my children to public school *gasp* do not make me a bad parent or Christian. I do identify with many of the other struggles mentioned, but financially I could be home with my children, I'm not working just to name that possible some day. I know that working on my current position is what God wants for me right now.
DeleteMandy- I am so glad that you found this blog post encouraging! God bless you sweet sister!
ReplyDeleteAshley- I loved what you had to say- it was motivational and challenging to me. I think working Moms needs more of this kind of confidence. My blog post is sharing just "me" right where I am, I don't speak for anyone else. God bless you sister. I don't know if you are a blogger or not- but I'd be honored to have you share your thoughts on being a CWM- I think you have something special to share to empower other women.
ReplyDeleteYou are so gracious.
DeleteThank you. This was very powerful for me. I think you addressed some areas that many working moms need to hear...to feel like working outside the home is okay and acknowledging the challenges that come for many of us. I sometimes feel judged for working full time by other Christians and it can be a lonely place to be. Thanks again.
ReplyDeleteWell said, Meredith.
DeleteThis is absolutely beautiful and appreciated. I will read this over and over. Thank you. 😊
ReplyDeleteAshley and Jenny- thank you so much for being so real and honest about your feelings. No offense taken whatsoever. I have learned that I need to be challenged in order to grow. Ashley- your perspective revealed something to me that I needed to hear. How much CWM's need to read about other CWM's who are confident, secure and feel like they are walking in the calling that God has for them. There is truly not much at all out there like this. I just posted a blog that is in response to your sharing. Thank you because your perspective encouraged me to be a bit bolder. Love always. Liz
ReplyDeleteAnonymous- thank you for your thoughts as well and support. I think all of us have places of pain, anger, resentment and as Moms we just need to embrace each other as we are. I honestly am okay with feedback, but do hope that all of us can do our best to speak to each other without judgment. It will happen- because we are human. But I always want my blog to be an accepting place and if I see something that seems to have ill-intent, I will remove it or discuss privately with the writer. I think Ashley's perspective is valid as even Jenny agreed. Love to you all! Liz
ReplyDeleteSo. I've been a working mother outside of the home and I've been a working mother who stays at home. In one incarnation I felt a very palpable disapproval from the church, and in the other, a noticeable lack of respect from (for lack of a better expression) "secular society". But the universal truth, that common invisible thread that connects all mothers , isn't altered by where we spend our weekdays. Is who we are dictated by whether we watch "Sesame Street" every morning and worry that we should be doing more, or plan million dollar mergers and worry that we should be doing less? Mothers. We're exhausted and fierce and courageous and frightened and proud and embarrassed and overjoyed and slightly hysterical and so much more. We are blessed with the most awe inspiring and terrific responsibility imaginable and we need each other.
ReplyDeleteAs another sister commented, we DO need to build each other up. There are plenty waiting to take us down..ourselves included. They will know we are His disciples by our love.
This was absolutely lovely. I pray it will find its way to the many hearts who need this encouragement. <3
Thank you Jennifer! I love your descriptions of Moms. Good words! And we DO need to build each other up- we need to be each other's #1 fans. We will rest easier and fight harder and love bigger TOGETHER. Thanks for commenting!
DeleteVery well said!
DeleteIf you are a single mom, divorced, this is probably decided for you. You have to work. You can be a good christian single working mom if you have to :)
ReplyDeleteGosh, it seems so many people are looking for validation in what they do, however, validation is not needed if you feel you are doing right in God! People do not validate you! Gain confidence through Christ, He died for you! Everyone else will hardly give you sugar these days. Choose your path wisely
ReplyDeleteSo true. Validation from God- the only one we need to answer to.
DeleteIf you ladies get a chance- you have to see Mom's Night Out. The scene in the jail with Bones gets me every time. "You are enough- just being you- He will take care of the rest". Look it up on YouTube. :)
ReplyDeleteLove love love this...
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ReplyDeleteA blanket statement like this -"paid childcare for children under 3 is one of the absolute worst things you can do to a child short of outright physical abuse" - is absolute HOGWASH!
DeleteOf course - childcare must be researched - and most importantly - prayed over. There is GREAT childcare out there.
I have worked and stayed home. I am strong enough to admit - I was a better Mom when I worked outside the home. I felt no shame with letting some household things go so I could interact with my children. You know what - they also learned how to help out and manage their time because that is what they saw me and their father doing.
As a former Nanny, I assume you were paid? Does that make you a horrible child care provider? What about those mothers who are home - but spend their days doing everything but engaging with their child?
Do we miss things and make sacrifices? Absolutely. What mother doesn't?
A paid worker who loves children is not detrimental to a child.
Statements like this set us back hundreds of years.
Shame on you Charlotte for making working mothers feel even worse!! Most of us work out of necessity, not choice, and we are doing our best to juggle it all!! Research shows that kids who attend daycare and preschool do better in school! Parents just have to choose wisely when it comes to daycare. Comparing it to child abuse is just asinine and cruel!!
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DeleteTitus 2: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. {sober: or, vigilant} 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; {holiness: or, holy women} {false…: or, one who foments strife} 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, {sober: or, wise} 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. This the order that God desires my friend.. We must always let God search are hearts that we are doing his will and not are own!
DeleteCharlotte - I will pray for you.
DeleteI am a working mom who has a brilliant, kind, creative, Jesus-loving little boy. I was called to work in the addictions counseling field and believe my family has been blessed by it. I could not quit as to do so would equate leaving the path that God has been directing me. Until He moves me, I will follow.
Absolutely beautiful!!! Thank you for this!
ReplyDeleteCharlotte-If you have personally observed some of these terrible daycare centers then I can see where you are coming from. It is so extremely sad to see children neglected by mothers who are so confused and making their career their priority. I don't think that my audience fits in this category at all. I agree 100% that babies going into negative, neglectful and jam-packed daycares suffer, I really do. I was a daycare worker and worked with infants and we had a small room with 4 babies maximum- those babies thrived. Those babies got so much love and care and their environment was so soothing and peaceful. I don't see that in other daycares. I am fortunate that I have my mother and my Pastors wife watching my kids in my/her home. I am also fortunate that I was able to stay home until about 4 months with my first and 2 months with my second. I also could lessen my work days, get home by about 3:00pm and then work at night after the babies went down so that I had more time with them. I would take from your comment a wise piece of advise to all Moms of infants that choosing a daycare provider needs to prayed over and carefully sought. I will assume the best and that is that these are women who are Christians who love the Lord,and would do this anyways and be very careful in this process. Blessings.
ReplyDeleteWow....that had me in tearing as I sat at my desk and couldn't cry in front of all my co-workers. Thank you for that! Needed....much needed!
ReplyDeleteOh what a sweet thing to read. I am a stay at home mom, but for crying out loud, there is not just one way to be there for your family. Just like there is not just one way or one place to serve God. A loving mom is a loving mom. My mom was at home part of the time, working or going to university at other times. I'm glad and proud of her choices in each instance.
ReplyDeleteI have been a stay at home mom and wife for a very long time now. One thing I have learned through the years is that we, as women, need to respect the decisions each other makes. Each mom in each family has a different path to take, and hopefully is being led by the Holy Spirit. We need to encourage each other along the journey because life is difficult and as moms, we all share a common bond. Let's lift each other up and encourage one another to be the very best we can be for ourselves and our families!
ReplyDeletewow. Charlotte, you have made alot of moms that have no choice to stay home feel horrible. My kids have been w/a sitter or daycare since 7 wks old. NO choice. We don't overspend and certainly can't make it on 1 income. My kids are confident, happy and loving.
ReplyDeleteIt is really sad when working moms have to be made to feel like bad mother's if they work. Sometimes work is necessary for food on the table.
ReplyDeleteI also feel strongly that working "career" women shouldn't inply that stay at home moms are inferior. Each family needs to assess their needs and put it before the Lord. I feel couples and single moms need to pray through it and put away the guilt. I now have been married for almost 42 years. I was a missionary and had my 2 children while in Africa. I was home with them fr the most part until they were 6-7 and we cam back and they went to school. I am a nurse so I needed to work to allow us to survive financially and to keep my nursing degree active. I chose to work night shift so I could be home when the children were home. I then worked 12 hr shifts 3 days a week and this allowed flexibility so I could be at all of their school sports and choir and band activities. I many times work all night and stayed up all at a school function. I asked my grown children what did they think I did well as a mother and they both said Mom you were there for everything. You gave up sleep to be there we loved that. You can children will feel loved if you show love to them. It is hard to be a stay home mom and hard to be a working mom. Each have their challeges. Let's just support each other without passing so much judgement. :)
I love all of you ladies and love your passion and your hearts for supporting each other. For those of you who see the negative, I pray that you will be open to the wisdom of your sisters in Christ as they share. And I also pray that again, as said repeatedly today, that we would build each other up- working, stay at home, single Moms, divorced Moms, military wives, pastor's wives, women married to non-believer's, there is such a vast array of challenges we all face. One thing is for sure, we love our children and we want them to know the Lord and we want to be good examples to them. We can do this everyday by surrendering to His will, accepting His grace, making choices that honor Him and engaging with our families and covering all of it in prayer. Lots of love! Liz
ReplyDeleteSo well put. You must have known this would stir up some mixed feelings. Good for you for being obedient to what is on your heart to share. In His love, Jennifer
DeleteAww, filled with tears as I realize how much of this speaks directly to my heart. This balance is the most difficult one I've ever tried to manage and as my daughter gets older it only becomes more difficult. I often struggle and forget that I am right where I need to be and that He has a plan for me and my family. Thank you so much!
ReplyDeleteOh how this spoke to my momma heart. I could not read without tears. Thank you for sharing the sweet whispers God has spoken to you. Indeed He does see us and is proud of us. This is a precious post.
ReplyDeletexoxo
So what about the women of the world that cannot have children or choose not to? Are they not looked upon in the same favor?
ReplyDeleteWe're all on the same side here (ostensibly). Longing to serve God and our families to the best of our abilities. Before commenting, we might all want to prayerfully remember that for many women (maybe even most) that second income is needed to simply get by. As for the childless women in the world...I'm sure there is a blog out there focusing on you. (What an odd comment..)
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing this. I have two daughters, ages 21 and 17, and this still blessed me and gave me encouragement. As moms, I think there are always times we feel like we are not the perfect parent. Reading this article gave me so much joy because a lot of it relates to me and my girls, and I believe God is proud of me. God Bless You for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI was a stay at home for 18 years until I became a single mom to my 5 children, against my will. I finished college while working one part time job, finished school and worked two part time jobs and am now down to one.
ReplyDeleteMy heart hurts for my three still at home. On most days I believe my two now grown children got the best "mom" from me. The one that did all the field trips and great birthday parties. The one that had snacks ready after school and dinner planned and in the works. The mom that did all the laundry and most household tasks.
But, what you said is so true Elizabeth! These kIds with the working mom see the woman who trusts God for every ounce of energy and the one who realizes that two hours of Settlers of Catan and having them pitch in to help with laundry may be the better life lesson right now.
I still pine for the days when I got to manage our home full time. But I love the special presence of God in the struggle of today. God's joy to you! Thanks for sharing with us.
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ReplyDeleteI have great sympathy for working moms, I really do. They have a hard role. However, as a former teacher and former nanny, I don't know that telling working moms it's okay to work and put their young children in childcare is okay. I saw firsthand the difference between children raised by their mothers and ones whose primary caregiver was always a paid worker. Working moms may be making a necessary sacrifice because of their situations, but paid childcare for children under 3 is one of the absolute worst things you can do to a child short of outright physical abuse. It harms them psychologically and developmentally in ways that we moms don't want to talk about because it understandably makes us feel awful. The studies that show the impact is not so bad include older children, which skews the results. However, I do believe the truth must be told. It may help prevent future mothers from unkowingly making choices that will one day push them into forced working motherhood, like taking on too much debt that will make a second income necessary.
Ms Charlotte- here is my response to you. First and foremost, I absolutely love this article. This has definitely hit home, and as a single mother, sometimes the reminder that I am doing an okay job is desperately needed. Now, your comment Charlotte has BEYOND infuriated me. First, you are you to judge another person's circumstances as to why they have to be working moms? Putting your child in child care before age three is almost as bad as child abuse? Here is my story- not that you asked. I am a single mother. I am the sole supporter of my household, and I get NO financial help. Nothing from the state, nothing from the ex, no parents to help me out just in case I couldn't make a payment. Me. I provide. (well, God gave me the job so that I COULD provide.) I also have my son involved in ball, and am at every practice, every game. I work 40 hours a week, and I am in school full time on the Dean's list. I work HARD so that my son can have the best life that I can provide for him. I do what I have to do NOW so that I can be for there for him long term. I am not a single mother because of being irresponsible. My ex husband decided that he wanted a girlfriend instead of a wife and child, and I had to learn to land on my feet when my son was 18 months old. Do not DARE to place judgment on anyone else unless you have walked in their shoes. Would I love to stay home? Sure! However my reality (and the reality of others) does not offer them that luxury. I will have you know my son is now registered for kindergarten, is ahead of where he needs to be for his age group, and is a very confident and happy little guy. He is well adjusted. He has chores, and responsibility. He also knows that his momma will do whatever she can for him. While this rant will probably be ignored- I hope that SOMEONE points out how close minded and judgmental you appear to me. Shame on you.
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DeleteNext time you leave your home and go anywhere- grocery, bank, Starbucks, mall, the doctor, your child's school, there are working mothers contributing to society everywhere. Can you imagine if one day we woke up and every single working mom stayed home? I guarantee there would be chaos. Think about how working women are contributing to YOUR well being and your family's well being. You should be GRATEFUL that there are women out there in the workforce so that you can have the things in life you have, and the ability to go out and do the things you do.
DeleteTo the first anonymous post...I am a daycare kid and I am perfectly balanced/mentally stable/don't have attachment issues, whatever you want to call it. I married a great man and have a wonderful life. Get off your high horse. My mother worked and I am proud of her accomplishments.
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ReplyDeleteWhen your done with Titus, read Proverbs 31 and tell me that's not a woman who works!
Delete"The Bible nowhere forbids a woman from working outside the home. However, the Bible does teach what a woman’s priorities are to be. If working outside the home causes a woman to neglect her children and husband, then it is wrong for that woman to work outside the home. If a Christian woman can work outside the home and still provide a loving, caring environment for her children and husband, then it is perfectly acceptable for her to work outside the home. With those principles in mind, there is freedom in Christ. Women who work outside the home should not be condemned, and neither should women who focus on the stewardship of the home be treated with condescension."
ReplyDeleteThis is the best comment I've seen on this thread, in my opinion! I'm a stay-at-home mom who often feels lonely, isolated, exhausted and drained from pouring every once into my tiny humans every day. But That being said, I feel richly blessed and connected to them in a way I don't think I, personally, would if I worked outside the home. But we are all different, created with different personalities, needs, and different children as well! Some moms are able to balance all of this amazingly well. Anyway, I just appreciate your insight because I guess I never thought of things that way.
DeleteThanks for the sweet post. I too had to work when my daughter was young and I know the heart felt issues this presents. But I know God always knows our situation and deals with us , in love, just where we are at. Appreciate you opening yourself up.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the sweet post. I too had to work when my daughter was young and I know the heart felt issues this presents. But I know God always knows our situation and deals with us , in love, just where we are at. Appreciate you opening yourself up.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone is getting off the topic. Every mother needs an article like this. Every mother needs to know God sees her in the day to day struggles. Every mommy makes the best decision she can. Your situation may be very different than mine. I do work outside the home. It's never been an option. My husband is self employed so I carry the insurance. We also choose to put our kids in private christian school. Is it easy? No!! Being a working mommy is the hardest job ever. I struggle everyday. I compare myself to every other mom with a spotless house, menu's planned, strict budget follower, Bible study teaching moms that seem to have it all together. I've thought about taking my life numerous times because I felt my kids deserve more. I will never be enough- ever. So this article means more to me than you know. So before you bash another mom for her decisions....take a step back. Working mom's love and adore their children too. And in the end- just like you-I just need reassurance that God sees me and he is proud of me despite the failures and insecurties. So to the author of this writting, thank you, thank you, thank you. You have no idea how much this broken mommy needed this. You may have just saved a life.
ReplyDeletePraying for you, sweet sister in Christ. You are loved!
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ReplyDeleteWhere is it clearly laid out in scripture? Titus? In the Old Testament? So do you also not cut your hair? Do you sacrifice lambs? Have slaves? Eat cheeseburgers? Not speak in church? Wear clothes made of two different cloths?
DeleteYou need to read up on scripture and study. Study Old Testament law, who it was made for, and how the world changed because of Jesus Christ.
I'm nosy. I like to know whose commenting and I look up all the blogs attached and the profiles. Jennifer! Or Jjcb35 @fortheloveofjosh@WordPress. My husband and I read your article on Lifenews and cried. Everyone I know was talking about it. You and your husband are real life heros. I don't know if I could be so strong in your situation and you are such a beautiful inspiration. I know this is off topic but the story had a deep affect on me and I had to say something. I hope you see this Jennifer. GOD bless you and your sweet baby.
ReplyDeleteA smart person knows what to say, a wise person knows whether or not to say it.
ReplyDeleteA smart person knows what to say, a wise person knows whether or not to say it.
ReplyDeleteLovely words which are comforting to many. I pray we can all learn not to jump to offense so often; clearly that was not the intention of the author. As woman we need to accept each other and recognize it is okay for us to have different needs.
ReplyDeleteYou know, for this to be a Christian forum, there sure are a lot of judgmental comments. I serve a God who loves every mommy simply because that's what he does and who he is. He doesn't love based on my choices. I love Him and he loves me whether I work or not. And that changes everything.
ReplyDeleteI so needed to read this! Sometimes in this crazy world, I just need to know that I am doing things right. I am thankful everyday for my children. I sometimes forget that I am God's child and he forgives me even when I screw up, just like I forgive my children.
ReplyDeleteElizabeth, thank you for sharing your heart & for so eloquently responding to the heated comments. As God has shown me in His upside kingdom, my life is not my own, my family is not my own & there are strengths he's given me that others do not have along with weaknesses. I completely agree that a United building up of other women SISTERS in Christ is so important and Biblical. That meeting women where they are is what Jesus does. He comes along side is to love and shed light on our sins to lead us to redemption but hurting people "hurt" people. I have opinions but unless I know someone's heart I cannot assume things about her.
ReplyDeleteSome of these comments stung & scar already hurt places. I wrote some posts on workingblessing.blogspot.com because there Are times when I struggle with God's call on my life to work outside the home full time in this season as a senior minister's wife and a NICU social worker. It's a season but He's helped me be driven in work & intentional at home. Thank you...
To the anonymous lady who posted a comment in support of Charlotte...I have a question about something you stated. You said " Ask any teacher and they can point out which kids had mommy at home and who was a day care kid."
ReplyDeleteI am a teacher! I work and have children....do you think teachers don't have families?!
According to you and Charlotte all women are supposed to be at home with their kids...that includes teachers I'm assuming?! How is anyone supposed to teach the children of this world if we're all supposed to stay at home with our kids. The only way for that to work is if only males were teachers, or if all the teachers were young women fresh out of college and didn't have children yet, or those women whose kids are grown and are out of the house supporting themselves. This is ludacris.
I went to college, got my teaching degree and taught for 2 years before having my first child. I chose to leave my teaching profession to stay at home with my child. Imagine if ALL teachers did this. What kind of world would we live in? I had my second baby and then I had to return to work for financial reasons. I am currently teaching and have a 4 year old and a 2 year old.
If I had not gone back to work, what is the point of furthering my education and going to college? That would of been a waste of my time and money. Are we telling all girls that they shouldnt go to college because they should ALL be staying at home with their children? C'mon. I loved the time I spent at home with them and I love working now. I get plenty of time with them and my children LOVE the childcare setting they're in/ My 2 year old wants to go there on the weekends and play. SHe loves her teachers and her friends.
On behalf of teachers, please think before you speak/write things that don't make sense. Someone has to teach these young children, unless you think every woman should stay home and homeschool?
I notice that most of the women who choose to call out working moms as "unBiblical" do so Anonymously.
ReplyDeleteAn astute observation. I've noticed this as well. :/
DeleteWell written, I love and appreciate this, thank you!!
ReplyDeleteSweet sisters...for those of you who have been touched by my sharing, I am so grateful. My heart is full of joy as I read your responses and I praise God for using me, just another Mama, to encourage others. God Bless you- stay strong in the Lord, cling to Jesus, honor God in your work and love on your babies with all your heart. Love you all!
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ReplyDeleteI am a mother. And now later in my life, I am a nanny for a 2-yr old girl with special needs. I'm a Christian and both of her parents are Christians. It is my joy to give this little girl every ounce of my energy and love and care that I can. I support her and her parents in my prayers continually. So, this little girl couldn't be in a better place while her mom, as a doctor, brings babies into this world.
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DeleteIn the day to day world, I do find myself being lost at time, falling through the cracks per say. This spoke to my heart BC this is my struggle, I won't share it with others for fear of judgement and negativity. I cried tears of wow this said it all. I feel more open and know that maybe I am not alone when the day comes to a close...I pray for all moms going the extra mile and being selfless. I pray for strength and peace of mind that we are on the right path.
ReplyDeleteI have been blessed to find as I trust God to meet my needs He will. It has been great to have eleven kids, staying at home, homeschooling, and raising them in the fear and the admonition of the Lord. For those who might b able to stay married by forgiving 70 times 7 in a day, that might be best. Titus 2 is challenging. We may never be pushed closer to a garden experience (Father, nevertheless, not my will...) than by those verses.
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ReplyDeleteWow, Anonymous! Pretty fierce! I am Pam's husband. We have eleven kids, all home schooled, and my wife, who is still very beautiful and sweet, quit working one month before we married, never to return, both as a reflection of her preference and of my headship. So, as far as the thinking, we are much on the same page but...pretty FIERCE!!! You might sweeten it up a bit.
ReplyDeleteThe world is a fallen world, and many mom's have to work. Some, no doubt, are looking for fulfillment best found in Christ. Are you helping them find that? Are you a sweet smelling savor?
You two are beautiful. Your children are incredibly blessed. Eleven?? I thought our quiver was full with five! Now I feel like a wimp!
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I'm so saddened to see how this has devolved. I'd like to point out that Elizabeth has met all comments and challenges (some rather nasty) with grace and kindness. There is no need, none, to attack each other in this way. If you disagree with her stance so wholeheartedly, is it not the kindness of the Lord that leads us to repentance? What about "Act justly, LOVE MERCY, walk humbly with thy God"? Or how about, since this is a blog dedicated to working Christian mothers (an oxymoron? That was just unnecessary and blatantly cruel), and you find this so offensive, don't read it.
ReplyDelete(Tangent, to the women who commented on my story on Lifenews, thank you so much for your kind words. The support we've gotten from sharing has been overwhelming. Lots of hate..but more encouragement. You can contact me through fortheloveofjosh.wordpress.com , my email is listed there. And there was nothing heroic in what we did, sweet sister. More women than not keep babies from rape. Mainstream media does not want this known! God is so good. We get to see beauty for ashes living everyday. ❤)
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DeleteOh my God. Did another human being really just say that to another??
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ReplyDeleteI rebuke you! The Lord rebuke you! That was evil! I am in shock! Unreal! Vicious! Sinful! Evil!
Anonymous...are you showing Christ's love? Is that how Jesus wants you to speak to others?
ReplyDeleteMany of those speaking negatively on here can quote scripture and act as if they have all the "right" answers when you're missing some basics. Look at the fruit of the Spirit (which my fourth grade class is currently learning about and preparing a chapel performance on) Love, Joy, PEACE, Patience, KINDNESS, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, and SELF-CONTROL.
Be humble. Do not think of yourselves better than others. Do not exalt yourselves thinking that you are better because you chose to stay at home with your children. There is a way to explain and justify your beliefs to others that is mature, loving, and full of grace and that is not condescending and full of hate and anger.
-Carrie
If it is not helpful then do not say it!
ReplyDeleteIf your words are not encouraging then why say them?
Good words that encourage and build others up are worth the time and effort that it takes to share. The comments left here have been very disappointing and discouraging to read. The Bible says to take every THOUGHT captive which means it is measured before it is spoken. Consider your thoughts and motives and finally your actions!!!! Oh, and by the way....What a fabulous article!!! Very well said!!
All I can say;..... AMEN!!!! I didn't realize how perfectly someone understood my trials/tribulations of/in life until I read THIS absolutely PERFECT rebuttle.... thank you Lord Jesus... AMEN
ReplyDeleteI'm a victim of workaholism and have been a rockstar career woman making it to the high ranks. However, I also have been a victim of infertility. After many years of trials and fertility treatments and much prayer, I ended up having two beautiful girls only 20 months apart. I'm an older mom because of it, and I must say that I struggle with the balance every day as I want to be part of my girls' life and ensure they have my love and presence as much as possible. I work late a lot and travel too. I give up all of my personal time on the weekends to have family time with my husband and our girls. Their happy faces make the difference. At the end of the day, we can be very successful women or men, doesn't matter... But who will cry for your absence and wish to bring time back is your family, not your job! Your job will replace you faster than a day's worth of mourning for your family. Find the balance and yes, it is ok to struggle. As a mom I want to be perfect, and perfect is only done by trying hard, working hard, struggling and much repetition. The older I get, the more important my family time is and the least important is going up another executive level. I had a role model working mom growing up, she made sacrifices over job choices in order to have more family time. An executive, PHD, and very smart lady chose the education route vs. the corporate route to allow more time with her kids! And for that, I'm thankful! She still worked hard but she had her boundaries and I never missed a meal with her during the weekdays! And yes, dinner time was important as it was the time for all of us to bond! This has unfortunately gone away... Between social, phones, work, and all of what we are responsible for, human touch and traditions at the dinner table have faded.... All of my predecessors were professional and highly compensated working mothers, none have said WORK more... All have said, work less and focus on enjoying your kids as they grow too fast! That doesn't mean be a lower performing career woman, it means, be a rockstar but have your boundaries and set your priorities to what really matters. I love this article! Thank you as that's just me in a mirror!!!
ReplyDeleteEvery mom is a working mom. I'm tired of the mommy wars. I'm a homemaker, I'm also a widow who is raising our 13, 10 and 8 year old children. God is providing for us so I don't have to enter the work force - what could be even more devastating, losing their dad, then having to enter the public school system who wouldn't care about the trauma and losing their mom to the work world. Let's just quit bashing one another. I look at pictures of my children when I'm away from them, I laugh at a memory of something funny they did, and BTW: Bible study at my church is in the evening but I can't make it because mine need ran to their activities.
ReplyDeleteMy Bible Study this evening is on the Promise of Peace.
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Our Memory Verse:
John 14:27- "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled neither let them be afraid."
The Hebrew word "Shalom" means the absence of conflict.
We are going to do an acrostic of the word SHALOM. Here is mine:
S- Surrendering my
H- heart
A- always to the
L- Lord in total
O- obedience to my
M- Maker
In Christ Jesus, we have peace and not conflict...
"Jesus is the Author and Source of all peace." (Sheila Walsh).
Love to all my peace-loving ladies out there; working, non-working, etc...
Then I saw this in FB yesterday-
"Where there's conflict, there's an opportunity to practice being like Jesus." -Ann Voskamp
My choice- I will practice being like Jesus in the fact of conflict.
Colossians 3:15- "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body; and be thankful."
Love to all!
Liz
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ReplyDeleteThank you for this encouragement and honesty! Many mothers, such as myself, don't have a choice when it comes to being able to stay home or work. I have to work to feed and shelter my kids. Always have. My income pays for their basic needs and keeps us from living in a shelter. Sometimes I just sit and cry, shaking and having chest pains because it literally breaks my heart that I don't have a choice and never have. But, God always finds me in that place and reminds me He has a plan for me and my path is the one He has me on for a reason. Please, stay-at-home moms, try to understand that for so many of us, we don't have a stable provider to lean on and not having a choice to work or not breaks our hearts. Please have compassion for us and not judgment. I am not a "career woman", I just have to feed my babies.
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ReplyDeleteYou remind me of the pharisees- right in every detail, wrong in every way! Be nice! Ask Jesus to make you sweet and kind! Temper your passion with mercy and grace.
"Have you even read the entire Bible? Yes, many times, cover to cover. Hard to find you in there. Your comment regarding why a woman was raped was grotesque. "Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring?" "Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices--mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law--justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former."
I trust you are trying to walk with Him. Pray for His heart and mind.
Brian N Pam
Thank you so much for this!! I need this just at this time. As a wife, a mother of 4 very involved active kids and full time employee, I get so overwhelmed at times....and I feel like this. Thank you for reminding me that this is the life God has given me...just this way, it is Because of HIM I make it through 8 hours of work, followed by basketball/baseball games, homework, dinner, prayer and rest. And your right HE has put certain people in my life to help me out....making it known that this is all HIM. Again thank you!!
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ReplyDeleteI will say first that I have never commented on a blog post before. I was sucked into this one by the vast array of comments being posted. I would have to agree that some of these comments were better left unsaid (even unthought)... we serve a loving savior and his grace is sufficient for all. I wanted to say a few words about the amazing story God has given me. I became a single mom when I was 7 months pregnant. I moved in with family and did a daycare out of the home for about two years. Then when I realized I wanted to raise my child as my child and not an extension of my sisters family I moved out and started working full time. I did this for 3 years and it broke my heart to drop her off at 7 and pick her up at 4 30 or 5 only to have to work more in the evenings at home some evenings. I prayed for freedom not because I believed I was sinning by working but because I longed for something different. I believed it was my lot in life to work since my marriage didn't work and I was the sole provider. .. no child support or visits from dad during all these years. After praying for a year for a job that would allow me to be home more two things happened. First child support suddenly started arriving after over 5 years of nothing and second my job ended and I was offered another position with the same pay or a severence package.. after much prayer all weekend I took the severence package believing God for something better (it wasn't a great job setting. ) I will shorten this by skipping to today... today my daughter is 9.5 and has been home schooled since kindergarten! Not against public schools but since I was finally home right before she started kindergarten I wanted her with me. I figured it would be for one year while I found a real job again because again. ..sole provider, had to work, impossible to be home and single.... but nothing is impossible with God! I do work... I work on Mondays and Wednesdays teaching college classes from 9 to 12 or 1. My daughter used to play and do school with another home school family from our tutorial during this time but now she comes with me and works on school work in the room next to mine. The same year I started this job I was offered a summer job selling books at conferences for our homeschool tutorial and my daughter could go to all events with me... the only missing link was how I would make it during the summer! God worked it out before I even started looking for a solution. I went from making 50k a year to less than 20k and somehow made it. .. minimized a lot but still lived in our house and was able to keep the car. Now I am making more as sales increase in the summer and in order to provide a vacation now and then and a decent Christmas I wait tables one day a week. ... gives my daughter a little time with her cousins each week. I offer this story in case any of you single working mom's long to be able to support your family and be home more...or if you are a working mom in a 2 income family and long to be home more... pray for your dreams and see if God won't bless you with more than you could ask our imagine. I know many of you enjoy working full time and feel you are a better mom for it. ..go for it! no judgment here and I pray blessings on your family but if you want something different don't believe it isn't possible. ..pray for it and let God surprise you with His "better than yours plan! " He is my provider. Love and blessings to you all no matter to what you are being called! Thanks for the amazing article Liz and for your graciousness in dealing with comments.
ReplyDeleteThis post has quite possibly saved my sanity. Thank you.
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ReplyDeleteSisters in Christ,
ReplyDeleteI have deleted comments that I feel are mean-spirited. Some of my readers are in sensitive spaces in their lives and I will not allow people to shame and injure others with their words on this blog. You will notice that I did keep some of the comments up that question working Moms because the comments were from women who have been hurt by Moms who over-work and I feel that their story needs to be heard and also stay at home Moms who are just very passionate but did NOT hurt and harm with their words. I am always open for opposite perspective to be shared as long as it can be done with respect. I do want to point out how proud I am of many of you who directly responded to some of these responses with love and offer for prayer.God Bless.
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ReplyDeleteShared with some fellow working moms, it's always a good to get godly encouragement.
ReplyDeleteWishing I could stay home, but knowing my duty is to provide along side my hubby, sometimes wearing so many hats can cause my heart to ache. Loved this sweet balm to my soul!
I blame those women in the past who fought for women's rights to be able to go out in the work field. When women started working it brought the cost of living up since families started making more income. Unfortunately we can't change the past, but we can pray for God's guidance each day concerning our family. God is faithful!
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ReplyDeleteYikes!! From these comments I must be the world's worst mother, horrible wife and Christian. Not only do I NOT work, my 3-year old son goes to daycare FULL TIME!! I have two older kids who go to school. Gasp!!! Furthermore, on a GOOD week I have dinner ready, I rarely do laundry AND I have someone clean my house! Good night - what kind of monster am I? Who would do that?? Blasphemy!!
ReplyDeleteBut wait - for those negative people, those who are finding it so easy to judge the lives and decisions of others and are so quick to hurt feelings of those commenting, you really should keep anything negative you have to say to yourself. Don't throw stones before you know one's background, life story and personal situation.
Let me explain. I am a "horrible mother ('abuser', if I read that correctly?), poor Christian, lazy and disrespectful wife" as you so easily state because I have been fighting stage 4 cancer for the THIRD time. I receive 2 treatments per week. After each of those treatments I have the luxury of spending the next 24-48 hours living in my bathroom or trying to crawl out of my bed. On GOOD days, I am able to dress myself, shower, climb up stairs and read amazing blogs like these (and get irritated by the horrible comments). For those negative people seeking anonymity because your hurtful statements - I invite you to live a day in my shoes. No, a HALF day. Just see how us horrible mothers, Christians and wives live. Are you still throwing stones?
Ask any one of my three children - do they feel neglected? Are they doomed for a life in a psychiatric home or will they fail at all they do? Nope. Because even on those bad days - I give them love, give them kisses, talk to them about their days and make sure they feel my love. Isn't that what's important? And 75% of the time I drive or have a caregiver drive me to pick them up at the bus. I claw my "abusing, horrible person" butt to the car, put on a hat to cover my bald head and put on a smile for my kids. I'm telling you - they love me and know, without a doubt, they are loved. As for my husband? He works full-time to help pay off the $300K + medical debt I've so selfishly racked up. But to him I do no wrong and the life he lives beside me, LITERALLY carrying me, holding me up, walking for me and laughing with me is nothing but love. God gave me him. He is my living angel. I am a good wife. And he is a provider. He provides us with love and I couldn't care less about anything else.
As for being a Christian, in good times and in bad I walk as a woman of God. I know first hand what His love is capable of, how He heals, how He allows the impossible to be possible, the whispers of strength I experience on those really, really bad days and what it feels like to hang on to His word when there is no hope. Don't tell me what kind of a Christian I am. (And weren't we taught not to judge anyway ...hmmmm.. ...I thought I read that somewhere.....)
So, puh-lease, keep those comments to yourself. Are those stones you're throwing at everyone else feel pretty heavy? Tisk tisk! You have shown your true hearts so I will pray for you and the negative spirits that are taking over your thoughts. None of us are better than the other and we are to love all of our neighbors....now doesn't it say that somewhere too? HMMM.
So negative Nancys - come on over. Show me what kind of person I am and tell me to my face. Live 6 hours with me and experience God's love. Live in my shoes - oh, be sure to bring a bucket for the not-so-great times.
I just want to throw this out there as I read this article and found it incredibly thoughtful. First I want to say that I am nontheistic. I do not believe in the Christian deities, nor do I believe in heaven or hell. If you are wondering as to why I am reading this, my mother sent this link to me and as to humor her, I read it. I liked it very much!
ReplyDeleteI have read the bible a few times, trying to believe but it wasn't the right path for me. Many things where the deciding factor, including the role of the Christian wife and mother.
Upon reading and research, the role is very clear for a wife and mother.
“Older women likewise are to be… teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored” (Titus 2:3-5).
There are other scriptures in the bible that are very clear, crystal clear, the role of a wife and mother.
I have been told and read in the bible countless times mothers are to be homemakers.
I am not trying to start a war here, because like I said before I love this post. It moved me. But if you have any questions, read that scripture in the bible. Find a Titus 2 woman and ask for her godly advice and guidance as to all circumstances are different.
I have noticed (no attacks please...)that many Christian mothers tend to ignore this scripture and others scriptures about the role that the lord put in place for mothers and dismiss it as it hurts their feelings, maybe? I am not sure...
On a side note, I loved this article, but it is not sound biblical advice. If you are looking for sound biblical advice, read your bible. Ask your pastor and a respected Titus 2 woman.
I believe everyone has the right to believe whatever and however they want. If you are a Christian, throw yourself into the faith and study his word. :):)
Coming from a working, nontheistic mother for 4 :)
Sometimes words that are put on someone's heart are not meant for everyone. So thank you Elizabeth for writing this beautiful blog. It is exactly what this working mother needed to read.
ReplyDeleteThis really touched my heart right now. After 17 years of teaching, I have decided to leave the classroom and move into a full-time technology support staff position at a Christian college (that's also 20 miles closer to home!). It's a HUGE pay cut, and I have major feelings of guilt for leaving a profession that I have invested so much time, education, sweat, and tears into. But now that I have an almost 4-year old son (who has been in daycare for 3 years and is perfectly AWESOME!), I have found that my priorities changed. To be really good and grow in my job, I have had to give MUCH more than just 40 hours/week, not to mention an hour and a half of daily commuting, and the mental and emotional toll of teaching a difficult subject in a public high school. But I am choosing not to continue to do that, but to make a change that will be better for me and my family. I won't be working quite such long hours, my commute is significantly less, I'll be working in a family-friendly, Christian environment, and I won't have to take work home with me (physically or mentally). Those benefits far outweigh the loss of income and the extreme budget changes we'll have to go through...
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ReplyDeleteI have taught school for 30 years; mostly in kindergarten. In my experience I observed my best students were the ones who were loved, given encouragement, & taught respect, kindness, & self discipline. It didn't matter if the parents were both working,were single parents, or were stay at home mothers. Even the students who were in before & after school care did great if their parents were loving. I also taught students from all 3 backgrounds who were disrespectful, unkind to others, & had no self discipline. Just my opinion, but loving parents interested in their children's lives were the key to successful caring children. I did note that the most successful students usually had some kind of Christian background, but not always. So advice from an old retired teacher, just love your little ones, show an interest in what they do. If you have to work, then work, just make sure your child is in loving safe hands when you can't be with them. Also, again, my opinion take your children to church somewhere. Most churches will help you teach respect, kindness, & self discipline.
EXACTLY what I needed. Crying over here. Thanks.
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ReplyDeleteI am a Christ follower, a mom of a 2 year old and 4 year old, a wife of a wonderful supportive husband, and a fulltime elementary school counselor in a public school. It is so true that all we need to know we really learn in kindergarten, including that if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all! When I read this article it touched my heart and was exactly what I needed at that moment. The Holy Spirit does that -- speaks to individuals at just the right time even though their lives and journeys are very much different from one another. I believe the enemy delights when he sees "Christians" getting all worked up about who is right and who is wrong over issues like working at home or not because he loves to divide when God wants us to be united in love. I know that my calling is to serve the children at my school - many who have extreme needs that I am able to serve thru a public school position - AND also to be a mom and wife. It is a lot and is not the same as everyone's calling but.... guess what? That's ok! If you are not doing the same thing as me .... give yourself a pat on the back because God loves you so much too ... and if you have your own unique situation... God loves you TOO. God knows each person's heart and calling. And when He calls a person to a career where they are serving Him (and check out Keller's book on work and faith ... all careers can serve Him if it's His calling to do it)... When He calls a person (mom or dad), He is more than capable of providing alloparents --- my preferred word for our superb and loving daycare providers -- who share in your care and raising of your children ... and you become a blessing in one another's lives. It is such a shame how some people distort what daycare is.... Oh my, if you can't say anything nice, please don't say anything at all. Thank you for this article, Elizabeth!
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh! This sounds just like my daughter & grandson who is 6. Something she would do everyday. She is a hard young woman & going to school! I love them to pieces. I wish I could have been like her when I was her age. She's so smart and is so wonderful! I love you my big D & little D!!! Stay strong in the Creator our God!!!
ReplyDeleteI, as a stay at home dad of 4 adopted boys, would love to receive these to help my wife out so I can, not only help her, but encourage her, lift her up, and understand what she is going through. This will help in attacking the root of what she is thinking and rely more on Christ in both of our lives spiritually, emotionally, and Physically. Please add me or direct me how. shawnohernandez@yahoo.com
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a Dad and Husband who wants the best for his wife...
While I also get a little defensive when it's always implied that working moms must want to be home but can't, I really liked this: "you can't make the Mama bible studies because they are during the day and how you don't want to go to an evening study anyways because every night belongs to those babies." I resist a lot of pressure to be involved with evening church events--I want my kids to feel at home at church, but we can't run around on weeknights sacrificing precious family time and our peace of mind. I also wanted to say what a blessing our daycare/preschool/after-school care center has been. The women who work there are Christians, and mothers themselves, and experienced professionals who know a lot about young childhood deveopment, but more importantly have helped me raise my babies and poured love into them and they take their profession very seriously. I hope they know how important they are. They have a vocation they're serving with grace and determination, too.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing what God is speaking to your heart. I often struggle when I drop my 3 year-old son at daycare. Even though weekends and evenings are spent together, I know that he would rather be at home. As a single mom, I am not able to stay home with him. My mother plans to retire after next year and keep him at home. Who better than the mom who stayed home with me and gave me such a great foundation! And, through him being at daycare, we have been able to witness to his babysitter. She is extremely wonderful but not a believer. I also have many opportunities to be a light to people at work. These are ways that I see God using a situation that is tough for good. Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI am a grandmother now, retired and worked all my life working outside the home while raising my sons.
ReplyDeleteAdvise?? It is not a who is right or wrong decision but how you glorify God in all you do. No matter what we do in life, if God is the head of it, then you can't go wrong.
God would never misspell Legos!
ReplyDelete1 Corinthians 10:31 "Whether you eat, or drink, or whatever you do. Do it ALL to the glory of God." Whether we stay at home with kids, work outside the home, work from home, whatever we do it should bring glory to God. It's not about us or having "perfect" kids. They are God's kids. He gave them to us. There are pros and cons to both worlds as a mom. Being a mom in general can be tough, but when we allow God to work in our hearts in wherever we are to be the mom He created us to be. If we are called to anything it's to make disciples. That can be your kids, people in your workplace, church, etc. Kids are one aspect of our life. We are kingdom builders to not just our children. I'm not saying parenting isn't important. Believe me, I don't think that. But sometimes I think our children can become so important to everything that we lose ourselves in our identity in Christ. We are mothers, women, co workers, daughters, sisters, Sunday school teachers. When we seek the place where God wants us to be with a heart that really wants to do His will and are obedient it affects everyone around us. When we let the gospel of Jesus Christ coming down from heaven, becoming flesh, living a perfect life in our place, becoming a sacrificial sin offering on the cross, conquering death by being raised from the tomb, ascending to heaven, sitting at the right hand of the Father in heaven interceding for us, the Father sending us another Helper, when that permeates our thoughts and hearts it affects our actions whether we be at home moms or working moms, single moms, not a mom yet. He is the reason we are here. To bring Him glory. Let us rest in His grace. Hebrews 4:14-16 (NIV) "Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven,[a] Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. 15 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16 Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need."
ReplyDeleteI just adore you ladies. So much good stuff here, so much wisdom and support. I am seeing less negative so I hope maybe people are understanding that it is not going to bring us down. I just had the best conversation with my Pastor's wife who watches my kids this morning about the blog and she is a firm stay at home Mom and her words of encouragement and support strengthened me so much. We belong to each other sisters in Christ. As one of you wise ladies stated, "As long as God is the head of what you are doing. You cannot go wrong." I will be praying specifically for those of you who are working who do NOT feel called to work and who struggle severely with it, that God will make a way for you to either find peace with your situation or a new way to work our your finances, a stay at home working option, etc... I know God wants to give us the desires of our hearts because He is a loving God. I think the heartfelt responses show that that there are some of you who really are struggling and I believe God hears you and sees your struggle. I also am excited to blog and survey to find ways that CWM's creatively connect with their kiddo's to keep that bond strong and priority #1. I know for me, one thing I do is work from home once/week and have lunch with my 7year old...I know other Moms who throw out the guilt and once/week eat out so that no dinner prep time is needed and they can be more focused during the after work hours. Other Moms have Saturday morning traditions like always baking with their kids that they hold on to and build memories with. These are what I call Anchor Points. I addressed this in a blog I may re-post but I want to also have even more ideas to give Moms. That was one of the reasons I linked you all up to my friend who does the e-mail account for her kids so she can e-mail them throughout the day and plans to one day give them the access to the account to read through them. Love you all!
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this. As a single working Mom, I love my job and I love my children and every single day is this struggle of trying to give everything my all and feeling like I have failed at the end of the day. Either I snapped at my son over something stupid, something didn't get done at work, laundry is piled up. I just always feel like I don't measure up to other Moms. Obviously, working is not an option for me, but a requirement. I have one 12 year old son that still lives at home and he is an amazing son. I don't know what I would do without him, but some days I just feel like he deserves more than I am able to give him from an attention, energy, money, etc perspective. This article has left me in tears today and is something that I absolutely needed to read. THANK YOU!!! My son does know that I have a great love and respect for Jesus and we do attend church and I do manage my budget to be able to send him to a great private Catholic school where he is learning the same love and respect for Jesus that we practice at home. This article helped me to see that these truly are the important things.
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ReplyDeleteAs a full time single father of two, with a full time job, I thank you as well.
ReplyDeleteI am a Christian working mom and have been most of my kids' lives. Do I want more time with my kids? Yes of course, but I knew I was doing what God wants for me and I got a lot of comfort from reading Proverbs 31. This ideal woman that is described appears to have 3 or more jobs. She wakes early in the morning to take care of her family's needs and supervises her servants (mine are named GE). She goes far to source her own materials to sew with and she sews into the late hours of the night. She buys land and takes HER profits (earns her own money) and plants a vineyard. She makes sashes to sell to the merchant ships (she is part of international commerce). It describes that she is hard working and is never lazy. It says that she takes care of her kids and ensures that they are in the best clothing (she probably would have had a nanny too). Her children and husband appreciate her and are blessed by her hard work. So this woman was a landowner, a vineyard keeper, a seamstress who left the house to buy/sell her goods, all while taking care of children and a husband. It never says that this is an easy life or that the mom would never be overwhelmed. It is not the path of every Christian mother, but it is an honorable one. I am beyond blessed. For those moms that work, be blessed in your path, for those that don't work, be blessed in your path. Both, be confident in your footsteps knowing that God is with you and wants the best for you.
ReplyDeleteReally! Wow, I will pray for you Anonymous on April 15, 2015 at 9:28am
ReplyDeleteAmen! Thank you!
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ReplyDeleteI respect that you look to the One who blessed you with your children for guidance in every aspect of loving, nurturing, and raising them to be the Godly individuals that He wants them to be. “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path.” For this reason, you are able to hear His voice speak to you – and only you – about being a Christian Working Mama. I interpret your very encouraging article to be an example for other working mothers to listen to what God has for them to do, and to be in their individual lives.
May I join this conversation, and share my perspective as a former single CWM, and now a grandmother? I apologize for this comment being so lengthy, but I suppose that’s the Blogger AND the Grandmother in me!!
I have two adult children that I raised from day one as a single mom. I did not work outside the home until my son was two years old. It was my own personal decision to see him crawl for the first time, to hear him say “Mommy” for the first time, to watch him take his first step, to rock him to sleep at nap time, to take him to the park on a Monday morning, and to the lake to watch the sailboats, or to the airport to watch the airplanes take off. This was MY choice. I did this because I was hearing the Lord telling me – personally – that my child needed me during his first two years of his life. When I went to work, I put my son in a reputable daycare. The teachers were kind, understanding, experienced, and treated the children with the utmost care. It was a great pre-school experience for him. It was not my suggestion for other mothers to follow the journey that I was taking.
I followed the same process with my daughter. When she was two years old, I started Nursing School. I had chosen a Christian daycare for her because she was very attached to me, and I felt she would be better taken care of in my absence. For two weeks, I traveled from the daycare to school, crying and praying every mile of the way. After the second week, she was fine, and I still cried all the way to school because she really didn’t care that I had left her and wouldn’t return for eight hours. It was because of the kind, loving teachers in that daycare that she adjusted so well, and I was able to arrive at school with red, but dry eyes.
Was it easy for me to be a single working mom? Absolutely not! Every day I doubted that I was doing the right thing, but knew that I was doing what was necessary financially. Every day I prayed, “Lord, if this is not Your plan for my life, please let me know.” After the second semester of nursing school, He spoke to me, and I dropped out of nursing school so that I could spend more time with my children. I operated a small home daycare for two years. By then my daughter was ready for kindergarten, and I returned to the workforce. Through it all, did I get tired, discouraged, stressed out, and irritated with myself? Oh, yes!! But I depended on, I leaned on, and I looked to God for the inspiration I needed to carry on. My motto became, “Here go I, but by the Grace of God.”
What I am saying, is that this is an individual decision that Christian mothers (whether single or married) have to make on their own, with the guidance of the Lord. Having been there, the only input I have are words of encouragement for any working mother. Even when it is a career choice, I can only say, in the list of priorities, make sure it is God, family/children, and then career. I found that the quality of time I gave to my children overshadowed the quantity of time (the number of hours in a day) that I had for them. God does bless CWM’s. And - God has blessed me with many things during my lifetime. Judgment of others has never been one of them. Hats off to you, Elizabeth Jones and to all the CWM’s who are making it work. Listen for God’s voice.
This was such a tremendous blessing. I often feel so lonely in this, that all the other working moms have it together and that somehow I can't seem to keep my head on straight. Thank you for sharing, for this little reminder from God's heart.
ReplyDeleteChrist would want us to raise each other up and not criticize the writer and her thoughts. If we love Christ we all should support each other not bad mouth each other. Let's all just love each other.
ReplyDeleteI find it disappointing that there is an obvious attempt in this article to preach and tie together hard working mothers and religion. Have your religion, but don't try to make it out like a hard working mothers are only "hard working mothers" with Jesus in their life. Contrived bullshit. Sorry but not sorry. And yes, I realize the name of this blog...but it was on my Facebook wall and I couldn't hold back.
ReplyDeleteHow can anyone read this post & receive anything more than encouragement? Its obvious that the writer was offering encouragement for working moms who feel overwhelmed trying to hold down a job, raise children(which can be a job in itself) & keep their home in some sort of order. she stated at the end that she was including stay at home moms as well. Its overwhelming at times just to be a mom and keep the household in order without adding the stress of how do I do what needs to be done (appts, school functions ect) & accomodate all these things with my work schedule. I found this very uplifting.I went to work when my son was (9 months old & he is now 16, I have been working for 15 yrs & have had a daughter during this time who is now 10 & even before myself & their father divorced its always been difficult to do what you need to do & do what you don't want to miss & work the hours you need to work & manintain the home too without feeling slightly overwhelmed at times. Its also hard to get your job to always allow you the time off needed to do these things. I am confident I am doing whats right for my family because my situation calls for me to have to work but at the same time I miss alot I'd rather not miss. Stay at home moms feel confident they are doing whats right for their family, their situations calls for them to be able to stay at home. Whatever works for each family. but at the same time, everyone feels overwhelmed from time to time and what this woman was trying to say is if you are feeling any of these emotions Here are some words that may help you in your moment of weakness but if you are not feeling any of these emotions then obviously this post doesn't apply to you & its great life is going good for you but for some women things are not always such a smooth ride, so let those it triggers be uplifted. You wouldn't read an article about drug & alchol addictions & say this offends me because I have it all together and have no addictions, No you would keep scrolling & let it flow to those who are struggling. I commend any mother who loves her children enough to struggle to be the mom they need despite any circumstances thrown at her. some children aren't always lucky enough to have that. working or not working.
ReplyDeleteElizabeth Jones: One more "angle" that I didn't see, but is my story... Wives are their husband's help-meet, partner and compliment (and vice versa) and God knows the needs of each person and brings us together in marriage to make a stronger "whole". I had the privilege of recieving mentoring from wise women in our church. They knew both my husband and I very well and due to our strengths and weaknesses, counseled me that I would always need to make an income as my husband was not able to bear the financial "provider" role alone. That resonated so strongly with me, I was fully able to understand for the first time that God's plan was indeed perfect and that my "contribution" to our home and family may not be "traditional" (whatever that means cuz Honey, go read Proverbs 31 and tell me THAT sweet sister wasn't working in and out of her home...��) but it was exactly what my husband needed from me - the one who God had given him.
ReplyDeleteSo, in this great discussion, please take a moment to pause and think about the many ways God uses ALL THINGS! Bless You!
God bless you sista! If this blog didn't encourage you, (which it was meant to do) maybe another one will. Either way, God loves YOU!!! Seek Him out. Your life will change for the better ��
Deletewhere theres good to be done evil is also. The Lord sends comforting words to help those who may be struggling but you always have doubters who want to counteract Gods work. If you are pefect and you never feel any stress from being a working mom or a stay at home mom then hooray for you. not every post is meant for every person. this post may have been meant for one single mother to read who was reaching the end of her rope. as the mother from ky stated if it doesnt apply to you ignore the post. not everyone is feeling the same just saying
ReplyDeleteWhat has happened here in this blog is why a lot of people want nothing to do with organized religion! I'm glad for me it's just me and Jesus...none of this debate matters!
ReplyDeleteLadies- I just wanted to mention that I have created a FB page for all of you to keep connecting and encouraging as well. I posted a bunch of articles I love. I am not a seasoned blogger so am not sure how to put a link on my blogger page yet, but I will figure it out eventually. For now- just search for the group titles Christian Working Mamas and you should find it. Ask to join and I will approve. If anyone joins that is doing so to be negative, they will be deleted from the group. I wish I didn't have to say that but I do. God Bless!
ReplyDeleteI loved your article and especially that my 19 year old daughter posted it with a special message for me!
ReplyDeleteYou see I have always been a working mom (outside the home)for many reasons- financial, single mom for 4 years, and because I love it. That doesn't mean I don't love my children as much as a stay-at-home mom does, it just means I love them differently. I always thought working was the best thing for me to do and so I made it more of a priority to create special times with my children. Sometimes they helped me around the house or we read together or we talked and studyed about God.
Most of the time I knew I was where God wanted me to be and I was doing the right thing but there were times when I wasn't sure. Those were times when I just didn't have enough time in the day to have a clean house, spend time with my kids and still work. And those were also times when stay-at-home moms felt it was their "duty" to scold me for "neglecting" my children while I worked.
I am so thankful that God put other people in my life to buffer me when I was put down like that. Godly childcare workers and flexible, understanding employers helped me keep a busy schedule and still be able to keep my family a priority.
My children are 32 and 19 now and I can only give God the credit and praise for the fine young adults they have grown up to be.
Wow I cannot keep up with all of the comments but I will say this is a great reminder for me that God is there everyday and gives me the strength to do what I need to do as a working Mom. We are all different but I do think we all feel incomplete or insufficient at times whether at work or home and that is what resonated with me. Your writing is lovely! Keep it up
ReplyDeleteI am a stay-at-home mom. It's hard but I love serving my family and raising my children myself. I feel that the act of mothering their own children is something that women give up too easily. Are you working out of financial necessity to give your family the basics? Then, I get it. Are you working to keep up with the Joneses? Are you working on your own goals for success? What are you trading in your right to mother your kids for. I don't need to know the answer. That's for you to reflect on.
ReplyDeleteWhat I took away from this... She is being watched over and praised for all her hard work... No parent has ever 100% thought at all times I'm doing everything exactly right. There's always a doubt about a missed concert/game or other moment. Even though it's out of our hands and we have to work, still we have a twinge of I wish I coulcould've been there... and it's not an argument about having to work & spending time with the children. It's a plan that some day she will be rewarded for her hard work and enjoy life outside of work... I don't want to work this hard when my time comes to enjoy grandchildren and life. She's feeling blessed for what she has, and knows she's doing the right thing. It's also nice to know she has faith of some sort whether Jesus or other beliefs. To feel the comfort of a spiritual connection as a self reassurance. Just my opinion as a former single mom - My child is 24 now... but I was thankful for everyone who was there for me to babysit, to take to sports when I couldn't. I was totally blessed with awesome family to help on those days.
ReplyDeleteI am not yet a mama, but I am so very excited for the day that God permits my husband and I to be parents, whenever that will be. It is something I think about a lot, but I know that I will probably work and raise my kids. Does this thought make me happy or sad? It's kind of both. Thank you for sharing this. It made me cry and I don't even have little ones! What a fantastic perspective. Your post has definitely changed the way I am going to pray about this with God from now until He grants me my first baby.
ReplyDeleteMy daughters are 18 an 14 and you expressed a lot of thoughts I had when they were little. Well written. No need for negativity. God uses different people and circumstances to speak to our hearts. This will not speak to everyone in the same way.
ReplyDeleteFrankly I was very impressed... as I know no matter if we are working inside the home or outside of the home, Our real job is to make sure our children see that we have a very needed relationship with God.. It will help them understand the need for the same type of relationship with him... And isn't that our ultimate goal anyway ...
ReplyDeleteMay God be with you and In you every step of you way..
One again, at the end of another day of comments, I am feeling overflowing in love, strength and passion for my work and my babies. You women inspire me more than you can ever imagine. Please continue to stay connected. And- let me know- what else would you like to hear about on this blog? Any specific ideas, questions, struggles? And again- if you are on FB, an easier way might be to join my group Christian Working Mamas and we can chat even more there. I am trying to post a few of my favorite articles a day so that you can have a toolbox CHOCK FULL of wisdom, grace and encouragement as a CWM. Love you all!
ReplyDeleteWow... People are so critical.... Thank you for sharing YOUR thoughts.. That is what a blog is isn't it?? Haha! I don't know.. I am not into all the "blogging" stuff usually and this is my very FIRST at ever responding to one.. And I just felt led to say thank you :) I enjoyed reading it and have some of those same feelings at times as well. I would love to stay at home with my babies next year but God has led me in another direction so I will be obedient and do what I need to do.. His plan not mine but I am going to do my best to have the best attitude I can and see it for it's possibilities.. It's a struggle though sometimes.. I am envious (I try no to be ;) of the "stay at home" mom.. Much of the women in my family have been and are stay at home mommies and sometimes I wish I could partake in those things that a working mom does not have the leisure to do.. But.. then again.. No one knows me like the Lord.. I might not be good at it! Haha! So I just have to trust that this is what is best of course! Anyhow.. I truly loved some of your thoughts.. Thank you again for sharing <3
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ReplyDeleteAs I mentioned previously, I will delete any comments that are not shared to build up, encourage or at least provide a fair perspective. The audience in this blog space are working Moms who are dedicated to serving Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and raising Godly children. They are women who seek the Lord in all they do and will let Him lead them in all areas of child-rearing. Women in this audience are not chasing fame, fortune or status in their career- but are working to provide and working to use their gifts as unto the Lord.
ReplyDeleteMay I please share this in my blog?
ReplyDeleteThank you for this post!
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous- I hope you were able to read my response to your comment. I posted yesterday a post called Hope. Lots of love to you sweet friend!
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So I have a question. I have 3 children, 21, 20 & 13, as well as 2 stepsons, 10 & 8. I have always been raised in a Christian belief & have never lost faith in my God, organized religion? Yep! But that's just me. As to this topic, what if I feel my calling from my God is outside of my home? I have such a strong desire to help, but that requires me to continue my education, in addition to working full time! What if I feel what I'm doing is showing my daughter's that they are strong, that they can be self reliant! And also teaching my son to respect a woman he meets, to treat her with the same respect?!? We're not living in the 50's anymore, & I truly love my profession, as well as my children! I just never see or hear the middle ground! It's always from those who stay at home or have to work! I work because I choose to, I want my kids to know it's ok to have a passion for something they love doing! The trick is to find a partner to support their goals, & not let either side make them "feel guilty" for whatever they choose!!
ReplyDeleteA co-worker/friend sent me a link to this blog post soon after I returned to work last month after the birth of my second child. I cried all the way through it--it was exactly what I needed!! I am exhausted and wish so much I could stay home, but your blog reminded me that there are so many other women who are right where I am...and that the Lord sees us and knows our hearts...and that He is our Strength and will take care of our children. Thank you so much for sharing what He laid on your heart--it has ministered to me so much!
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ReplyDeleteI am SO glad that you found this blogpost encouraging. I have cried those same tears. You are SO NOT alone and God knows your heart's desires as a Mom. Enjoy your children and serve Him always at work and at home. God Bless!
This speaks to me so loud right now. As a Christian working-mama who has recently returned home to get things in order, I can relate to both sides of the isle. Thank you for this beautifully written letter, I sure needed it !
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ReplyDeleteThank you so much. Being a working mom was never part of my plan and it is so difficult for me to work outside the home and juggle work and home life. I have to work as we need my salary but I would so much rather be at home with my children. I have missed out on so much with my kids and a lot of the time am too tired to enjoy them. I read your post with tears running down my face.
ReplyDeleteLauren thank you so much for stopping by. I just prayed for you – that the Lord would allow you to have some special time with your kiddos this week and that you would feel peace and assurance as you work and provide for your family. I pray that you would know that the fathers deep deep love for you is enough and I pray that in those moments where you feel like you are not enough, that you would know that he will step in and provide. It's so tough though – I honestly cannot say that I've ever had a full week where at least one or two of my days I leave with that sinking feeling in my stomach. It's because we love them so much. I pray that the time that you have with them in the evening would be rich and filled with laughter and love and that you would have the energy you need to enjoy that time. God bless!!!
DeleteMy facebook memories brought this link up again today, as I'd shared it last year. I re-read it in the few minutes I had alone before a work meeting this morning. And I loved it. Not everything "fit" for me.... but the loving tone from my Father did. I'm a social worker, and there are days I'm frustrated that I spend all my energy taking care of other people rather than my daughter. And then I remember that this is more than a job, more than a career... it's a calling. I want my daughter to watch me serving others, and looking for ways to help. But that doesn't mean that I don't have days that I feel wrung out and on empty. This was a wonderful post... I'm so glad I got to reread it!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this!! We need someone to minister to us so bad.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for putting a voice to my struggles and providing His response consistent with the Bible. It is hard when you feel like you have no choice in the matter when it feels like others decided for you to have to be away from them all day.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you were encouraged. I pray that you enjoy every moment that you have with them even if the timing is not as much as you'd like. I pray that you can find joy even in the difficult days. I know that when we put God first and everything falls into place even if Those things are difficult. I pray that he will strengthen you and sanctify you and make you more like Christ every day as you balance this tension. God loves you and you are a good mother!
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